Hello — I’m Jonathan and this is what I believe.
Your relationship is sacred. It exists to help you create the most fulfilling life possible.
If you do not listen to your feelings, you are not being authentic, and it will affect your entire relationship.
Learning to be yourself will give rise to the best in your relationship.
True listening to another person will change everything about how you relate, and it will change you.
Commitment is paramount.
Trusting the process in relationship gives rise to magic.
Every relationship has phases and cycles.
Problems are sacred doorways to guide us towards deeper intimacy.
There are no value conflicts, only unclarity of commitment & purpose.
Your unique desires will uplift your relationship and society when understood and pursued.
You can trust yourself.
Our partner is our greatest teacher, and everything they do helps us towards our highest potential.
Not paying attention to our feelings leads to shutting down our energy, creativity, enthusiasm, and affection. It leads to a dull, muted life.
Paying attention to our feelings changes our lives, and opens the path to a vibrant love-filled life.
The journey of your relationship is the journey to be yourself.
Mystery is always the deepest source of eroticism and love.
As we learn to be with the unknown, we learn to love.
By examining expectations, stories, and shadows, we open the possibility of free choice. By ignoring them we are controlled by them.
The effects of good relationship ripples outwards into our families and communities.
By giving back and encouraging others, we more fully embody our own values and beliefs.
How Do we work?
People think and communicate on two levels.
The first level is a mental story. It’s what we think, and how we talk about our lives. This is what you get clear about in therapy.
The second level is emotion and feeling, and it is accessed through your body. The level is never fully understood. It’s a practice to know this part of ourselves and our partners. This type of communication is like dancing.
This work acknowledges both aspects of you as important and necessary.
The work brings us to see, understand, and embody what we are saying to one another on a deep level, and it brings us into integrated alignment.
We do this by using our mental story and always staying rooted in presence of the body.
This gives rise to the feelings of intimacy and freedom.
What is The 8 Week Program?
The 8 week program is designed to challenge the patterns of your relationship. It will help you uncover the values and desires that you are not acknowledging in yourself and your partner.
Couples learn to step safely into themselves within their commitment, and they eventually locate deeper passion, joy, intimacy, and desire than they have ever known with one another.
By focusing on the safety and rightness of the individual, we find that relationship thrives.
Over 8 weeks, we consistently use writing, conversation, meditation, video calls and chats, rituals, fire, and a trip to a sacred native American healing ground in New Mexico.
The program begins with a Breakthrough call that is totally free. In this call, we identify the major patterns in your relationship, where you want to be, and the trajectory to get there. The call also helps us determine the rightness of working together.
The 8 week program will always be a deep exploration of the fundamental issues that come up in the Breakthrough call.
Who is it for?
This program is for couples who are committed to their own growth, and the growth of their relationship.
It is for couples who are committed to one another, but may have experienced a pulling away or deadening of their love, affection, and creativity.
They must both be willing to engage with their feelings, learn to communicate them more fully, and show up for each other and themselves.
They must be committed to face tough moments.
They must both know that it is time for a change, and be ready to face the uncertainty of change.
If this is not you, my work cannot help you.
There are no guarantees of relationship success in this program, just as there are no guarantees in life.
Here is what I offer:
Full commitment and support for the goals of the couple
I strive to identify and enroll couples who share my beliefs about relationship, and who I fully believe I can help. You must know this is right for you and your relationship. I cannot drag you through the process.
In the rare case that we make a mistake entering a client-coach relationship, and later decide it’s not the right fit, I will honor your decision to pull out of the program with a full refund.
I do not pressure people in the enrollment process. Our relationship is built on trust. I know that my clients must show up resourceful, resilient, and ready to solve their own problems. I offer a path to a solution, and I look for couples who feel a clear ‘Yes.’
If you need something specific to feel comfortable, please ask.
Week 1 - Your Story & Its Effects
End of Week 1 - Commitment & Opening Ritual
Week 2 - Learning to Listen Again
Week 3 - Sharing Personal Dreams, Visions, and Desires
Week 4 & 5 - Getting Honest about What Makes us Feel Alive, Doing It, and Figuring out how to Give Our Partner Space & Support!
Week 6 - Exploring the Language of Touch
Week 7 - Exploring Desire & Sexuality
End of Week 7 - Ritual Weekend Journey to Ojo Caliente Hot Springs Resort in New Mexico
Week 8 - Our Shared Vision
End of Week Eight - Fire Ritual
This Breakthrough Session is for both of you! Please be ready to show up together.
Pick a time below for your call. It’s free, and it will be a valuable, helping you find clarity about:
1) What you are each truly desiring and needing in relationship,
2) Unhelpful patterns of behavior in the relationship now, and how this is keeping you stuck,
3) The path to heal and uncover new healthier dynamics
Pick a time when you’re both available, and someplace private. We need to focus for 45 minutes, up to an hour to be safe. You can use two phones, and we will combine the calls, or you can use a quality speakerphone in a private room.